Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward.– Henry Ford –
At some point in your life you’re going to experience a setback. It could be the end of a relationship or friendship. A missed job opportunity or maybe even the death of loved one. Something will occur in your life that will most definitely knock you off your feet. But guess what thats ok because ‘every dog has their day’. As you live through this thing called life you’ll soon come to realise that setbacks come with the territory. Everyone will go through it at some point but thats not even the hard part. Bouncing back after you’ve been knocked down is.
A setback is hard to overcome but its not impossible
I’ve had my fair share of setbacks and I know just how much they can effect you. After my break up in 2016 I was stressed, my hair fell out, I couldn’t function and I lost all my motivation. I felt defeated EVERY SINGLE DAY for a very long time and I struggled to shake that feeling off!!! It’s crazy how that one situation had such a major impact in my life. I was definitely a mess and I lost my inner and outer glow was definitely effected. I didn’t think that I would ever bounce back but by the grace of God I eventually did.
What is your inner GLOW???
The word glow actually means to illuminate a steady radiance of light or warmth. However I’ve conjured up my own definition because I strongly believe that a persons glow represents so much more. For me, your glow is a reflection of your aura, your mojo, your vibe and energy. This manifest physically into your appearance.
When it’s gone you’ll struggle to get it back.
So I’ll be the first to say it getting your glow back is far from easy. It took me forever and a day just to get mines back. I went through the motions and experienced many highs and lows. You’ll feel like you’re making progress to getting the old you back then all of a sudden you’ll hit a couple roadblock. Getting yourself out of a bad funk is emotionally, mentally & physically draining. The entire process is extremely tedious. Mix that with discouragement, self doubt, stress and disappointment and you have a combination for complete and utter disaster.
Luckily for me my life experiences have been my best teacher. On my personal quest to getting my glow back I picked up a few gems along the way. I wish I’de known now what I didn’t know then. It would have saved me a lot of time and unnecessary distress. But I guess if I didn’t experience that than I wouldn’t be able to share these gems with you.
Don’t expect to always be great. Disappointments, failures and setbacks are a normal part of the lifecycle.– Colin Powell –
3 gems to help you get your glow back after a set back
Before I go any further I would like to point out that this isn’t a quick fix for healing. Don’t expect to apply these gems and be back on your feet in a day or two, it doesn’t work like that.
Now I don’t know what setbacks you may have faced in 2019. I’m just here to let you know its not the end of the world and you cant come and kill yourself. So if you’re still in a funk its time for you to get back on your feet and continue running this life marathon. You’ll never be the same person you were prior to a setback and thats ok. Setbacks always come with a lesson, message and purpose all while helping you to become a better person. If you commit yourself to applying the following below you’ll be glowing and growing in no time.
Acceptance – it is what it is
Last year I had a job interview at Google and I got through to the last stage but didn’t get the job. I cried like a baby because I really wanted that job. I was devastated, discouraged and disappointed. The job that I was in at the time I desperately wanted to get out of. So when the door closed on this AMAZING job opportunity it hurt like hell. It was difficult for me to accept that the job slipped through my hands and there was nothing I could do about it.
I was hurt for a while but I eventually got over it. The first step in doing so was me acknowledging what happened then accepting it for what it was. Yes it was a hard pill to swallow but I accepted that I couldn’t changed what happened. Here’s some free game, the longer you dwell on something the harder it’ll take for you to get over it. When things happen acknowledge it. Accept it and then go out there and flourish!
Change your perspective
You cant change the things that happen to you but you can change the way you respond to them. Rather than seeing a setback as something negative look at them as positive. This way you’ll be able to see things in a different light. In the early days of my break up I had a negative outlook about the whole situation. Now this is pretty normal however after a while my perspective changed. By choosing to embrace the break up and look at it as a positive rather than a setback helped me move on and grow. Remember: A positive perspective changes everything!
Pour back into yourself & do things that you love
Setbacks can suck the life out of you. Often making you feel like you don’t want to do anything. On your journey to getting your glow back its important to stay busy and keep you mind off the issue at hand. The best way to do this by doing you. Whether that be going to the gym or caching flights. You’re going to have to tap into those things that make your soul happy and you’re going to have to tap in often. By occupying yourself with things that you love doing will get you glowing in no time. Immerse yourself in all things that get you happy juices flowing and don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone.
Tell me your thoughts? – Feel free to mind dump below. What things have you done that helped you on your quest to bounce back after a setback? Do you have any advice, tips, life gems or words of encouragement? Let me know in the comment section or give me a shout on Twitter!!!!!
Lots of Love